I Shouldn’t Cry Because Things Are Working Out

When things get tough, I tend to pick up the pieces, put a brave face and say: ‘I can do this. Let’s go and do it’

When things get tough, I have no problem at smiling at the problem and get a solution.

In fact, I’m pretty good at it.

When things get tough, I don’t cry. My mind is busy figuring solutions, making things happen.

And I usually come up with great solutions, and things tend to work out fine.

And then...

Things go soft.

The worst is gone.

So I should enjoy.

But it is in that moment, when I’m free of that heavy load, when my body relaxes...

That instead of enjoying, I cry.

And I allow myself to do it.

Because it is in these moments when I get my strength back.

I cry as a natural response to the pain my adrenaline numbed.

I cry as a way of releasing and recharging energy.

I cry as a tool to go soft and get back to myself.

We don’t feel the pain when we’re lifting a heavy rock.

It is only when our back is free, and we are allowed to rest, when we start to feel the pain.

But no one really says, ‘hey, the rock is already gone! You should be glad! Stand up and dance!’

Everyone can see the bruises and the swelling from carrying that heavy rock.

Everybody understands that you might need to take care of yourself. Get some rest.

When it comes to our emotions… it’s exactly the same.

But no one can see the emotional rock we’ve been carrying, so it gets more difficult (even for ourselves) to see or understand that we need to go soft.

Usually, it is when the worst is gone, when we feel at our worst.

So don’t feel guilty if you feel emotionally overwhelmed when things are finally working out.

Don’t stress when you want to cry and nothing ‘bad’ is happening.

Don’t be hard on yourself because you should feel ‘good’ after overcoming a difficult time.

Crying is one of the best responses to calm the system down. It’s soothing.

Crying doesn’t need to be a sign of sadness.

Crying is definitely not a sign of weakness.

With vulnerability comes empowerment.

And vice-versa.

Let’s embrace both so we can become the shiniest version of ourselves.